The love language is truly the secret for a good relationship. It’s a concept that is becoming more and more popular, especially in couple therapies. What is the love language? How do you express it? Do you prefer compliments or gifts? Embrace or help others?
No matter what you chose, the way you express your love to your important people is what truly matters. There are five different love languages, and once you know which one is yours, you can use it to help you. Let me explain it briefly each one of them. I am sure you’ll find them interesting.
What it really is?
The idea of ”love language” applies to friends, colleagues, your significant other and your family. The premise is simple: “Every person gives and receives love in a certain and specific language of their own.” This way you understand better yourself and others.
We all have that language in which we express ourselves and speak fluently with our partner. When that language is spoken to us, we have a happier and healthier relationship with that person. However, this applies to friends and family too.
Love as part of personal and professional growth
Over time, you will learn that building and cultivating relationships is an essential part of personal and professional growth.
“Remember, if you want to walk fast, walk alone. If you want to go far, walk together.”
What better way to build and nurture relationships than to speak the other person’s love language? To better understand it we invite you to read the book “5 languages of love” by Gary Chapman. If you don’t want to read the book, we got you covered. I will explain shortly a quick overview of 5 languages of love:
Affirmative words: Unexpected compliments and psychological support with empathy and understanding words.
Quality Time: Express love with full and undisturbed attention.
Receiving Gifts: Flourish love, thoughts and effort of giving a thoughtful gift (This has nothing to do with materialism!)
Acts of love through deeds: For you, actions speak louder than words. You want someone to ease the burden of your responsibilities.
Physical touch: Nothing means more to you than a simple human touch. Hugs, caresses and kisses – all of these are the best way to show exaltation, concern, care and love.
Love language as a means of communication even at work
Despite what it is believed, your love language doesn’t only serve your significant other. This language can be applied at work too! I will give you some ideas of what you can do or say after knowing another person’s love language.
- Words of Affirmation: Just pay attention to people, tell them they did a great job. Encourage them!
- Quality time: Set a schedule on the calendar so you can reconnect with your loved ones without distractions.
- Receiving Gifts: Bring your colleagues breakfast, coffee; or remember their birthday/work anniversary.
- Acts of love through deeds: When you see that the other person is stressed or needs help, offer your help or do something without them asking for it.
- Physical touch: A light touch on the shoulder or a light hug can make everyone’s day.
Practical book tips can change your life. Helping you grow closer to your family, friends, and others you care about, and give you the opportunity to express better your emotions and love. If you know what the other person’s love language is you won’t misunderstand their intentions. Like why you boyfriend gives you gifts instead of more kisses. By understanding how they express their love, you’ll understand that these little misunderstandings are just love language barriers.